How to Stop Being A Perfectionist When You Don’t Need To Be

How to Stop Being A Perfectionist

Do you want to stop being a perfectionist when you don’t need to be? Perfectionism is a curse that only causes you to work more than you need to. 


There is nothing wrong with wanting to be your best and do your best. However, there is a thin line between a high achiever and a perfectionist.


Perfectionists are motivated by the fear of failure while high achievers just want to do their best.


The tips and tricks you will learn in this post will help alleviate the stress and heartache caused by always striving to be nothing less than perfect.


How to Stop Being A Perfectionist


Identify Why You Feel the Need to Be Perfect


First, ask yourself why you need to be perfect at everything you do.


Are you simply scared of being wrong, messing up in front of your friends and family, or afraid of judgment?


Start to pay attention to the things you think about and focus on when you start to over-analyze and stress. These are the keys to why you want to be perfect. 


Maybe you want to impress your boss, or your family relies on you and one mess-up means a missed bill. 


Figure it out and then find ways to make these situations easier to combat stress and anxiety.


Ask Yourself, “Are You Being Realistic, Honestly?”


Search your mind and heart and ask yourself whether you are legitimately realistic. 


Is this something you would expect from others without a bonus or some kind of perk for finishing the work?


Outline the Expectations


Make a list of what is expected from you. 


Highlight if they are your expectations, expectations from others, or your assumptions. 


Then only focus on the expectation that is true and realistic, just like a syllabus on a school project.


If you follow the syllabus, you are likely to get a passing grade even if you don’t get the answer entirely right. 


In other words, you don’t need to do more than what is expected of you to get a passing grade, and the extra work you do doesn’t mean you will get extra credit either. 


Lower Your Expectation of Others and Yourself


Ultimately what leads to perfectionist tendencies is high expectations of yourself and others. 


You know what you expect from others and often lead as an example. 


However, perfectionists often have incredibly high expectations and think others can achieve just about anything.


This is not the case. Anytime you approach a task like this, highlight the unreasonable expectations and then eliminate them.


In the end, perfectionism isn’t real. It is only based on your perception of what perfectionism is.


Someone else probably has even higher standards than you, yet again making it an impossible feat to expect someone to meet. 


Don’t expect it from yourself either. The less you expect perfection, the happier you will be.


Wrap Up

Stop believing that anything short of perfect is horrible. It is okay to make mistakes from time to time.


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